He's not talking to me anymore. he dont do like he used to. He dont even love Me anymore. Yeah, i've heard that a million times and quite frankly more than 60 percent of people saying that are always in the wrong. There is no relationship that can blossom without communication and this ranges from talking, seeing, feeling etc. amongst this, talking plays a very big role. because you get to learn how exciting both of you are or how so not going to work out, this relationship is going to be. You make and correct mistakes together plus learn from them. And that further aids team work because by so doing this especially when you get to see each other all the time like you trainning together on a soccer pitch, you seem to commune after while without moving your lips. Just body language and everybody understands.
Ok, its important to note that you are from different worlds and different people, so you think differently. Yeah, you dont have to agree with all what he or she says, but somewhere along the line, you can cut it in the middle. Like win and loose some stuff. You cant always win all the time, that's for sure and always have the other persons interest at heart. It will help nurture, protect and grow the relationship. This doesnt mean that if the other person is wrong but dont know it then you should shut your mouth and let it go because you dont want to hurt anyones feelings. You do this, and you are not helping either of you and are hurting the relationship. The Love-o-cracy is at risk when you start compromising in this manner.
Say i'm sorry as often as you make mistakes, heck they don't buy it, it's free and all you have to do is open your mouth and say I AM SORRY whenever you go wrong. Most times, that is all a broken relationship needs to heal. And funny enough, a lot of people see this as a big deal. Well, if you don't say those simple words now when the wreckage is still in the infant stage, then be prepared to start adding tears and aches for those of you that easily get broken hearted. And if your partner is cheating on you, why not check yourself and your routine before pointing fingers. If he or she has something keeping them out or away from you, then it might be that there's something you are not doing well or at all. Always take the time to find out, cry if you have to but always ask. Even if it annoys him like you fear it will, then it means this guy isn't the one for you or that, both of you will part ways in a matter of time and trust me, there's no better time to ending a bad relationship than the now.
Now this next paragraph, brings me to to the first. A lot of women find themselves in a bad relationship and clearly it is their fault. you are always hurt, and not been loved back blablabla. Why are you still in it? If you think you deserve a lot more than you are getting and aint caught up for none of this then, do what is right to help both of you. Forget about the trips, jewelries, clothes and whatever it is you are getting. If you are not happy from the depth of your heart, you'll never be happy even if he was Bill Gates.
So, is your relationship ok, is the problem you, him or her? Fix it.
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